Hebrews 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
Almost every little girl hopes to grow up, marry the man of her dreams and live happily ever after. Today, popular culture tells us that if we aren’t happy, just get out and move on to the next one, or find someone outside of your marriage who will supplement by giving you what you need. Adultery is devastating not only to the marriage, but it hurts everyone it touches.
God tells us that he wants us to be a living sacrifice in our marriages by focusing on our husbands and honoring them. Marriage can be a beautiful thing. One aspect of that is how God can take two different people and help them become one when both are willing to be molded by Him. The contributors on this post have 179 combined years of being married. Here are a few things we have learned by experience and mistakes about keeping honor and remaining faithful in marriage.
How to Discover the Treasure in Your Marriage
· Be selfless
A strong and happy marriage is a great witness to God’s love. In I Corinthians chapter 13, God defines love as patient, kind, and never failing. If we are to love our husbands as God desires, we must not be selfish.
· Remain faithful
Being faithful to your husband doesn’t just apply to sex. It means standing by your man no matter what comes. We are all going to have ups and downs.
We, women, love to talk, but a strong relationship requires two people listening to each other. You learn nothing by speaking all the time. Take time to continue dating each other. We,wives, generally make the plans, so plan a date night with your man.
· Show honor in your speech
There is a difference between gentle joking amongst girlfriends about married life and criticizing our husbands. Gentle joking is okay, as long as everyone knows you’re joking. Imagine how you would feel if your husband spoke about you in a manner that was hurtful or unbecoming to his friends.
· Build him up
When we build up our husbands with encouragement, we build up our whole household. Ruth Bell Graham, wife of Billy Graham, said, “It’s my job to love and respect Billy; it’s God’s job to make him good. God called you not to make your husband good, but to make him happy.”
How to Discover The Man You Can Treasure
· Be certain
You will meet many men during the course of your life. Before you get married, be sure he is the one that you are determined to stay faithful to both sexually and emotionally. Don’t find a love you can live with, find one that you can’t live without.
· Know your value
A man who makes you feel anything less than smart, confident, and comfortable with who you are is not worth your time. He isn’t the one for you.
· Include God
Your identity is never found in a man- it is who you are in Christ (and that alone) that matters. A man’s relationship with God will tell you a lot about the type of person he is.
· Slow down
Take your time to find the right one. Don’t just rush into relationship after relationship like shopping for shoes: trying every style on, wearing them for a while and then getting a new pair. Guard your hearts and your purity. Being promiscuous will hinder your progress even further.
Carry the torch of believing in true love and marriage. Pray that God will close the door on any unhealthy relationship, and quietly bring you the husband that He has chosen for you knowing that He knows best. Believe it!
Of course, not every marriage is a happy one. There are many who are lonely, abused, cheated on, and just generally unhappy. Ask God to cover your marriage with grace and forgiveness to heal wounds. If you are being abused, please seek help. God doesn’t want any of His children in that situation.
If you are in a struggling marriage, and need prayer, please email your request to firstname.lastname@example.org. We will pray for you.
Passages to Ponder:
2 Corinthians 6:14- Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?
I Thessalonians 5:11- So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.
Proverbs 14:1- A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
Conributors: Karen Bromby, Monica Brown, Kathy Derda, Jodi Dunbar, Jamie Leary, Kim McClure, Kristy Tolley and Chaminie Wheeler